Benefits
Why Add This Relay
Direct messages arrive reliably
When someone sends you a Nostr direct message, their client publishes it to the
relays in your relay list. If this relay is in your list, messages sent to you
through Nostri.me features — welcome messages, admin notifications, and any DMs
from other Nostri.me users — are delivered here first, quickly and directly.
No relay-hopping, no missed messages because a busy public relay dropped the event.
Fast delivery — dedicated infrastructure
This relay runs exclusively for Nostri.me identities, not as a public catch-all
relay handling millions of events from all over the Nostr network. A smaller,
focused event set means lower latency for the events that matter to you.
Authenticated publishing — no spam
Writing to this relay requires NIP-42 authentication —
your Nostr client proves ownership of your keypair before any event is accepted.
Unauthenticated writes are rejected outright. This keeps the relay clean:
no spam, no fake events, no unsolicited content from unknown sources.
Anyone can read; only verified keypairs can write.
Your identity already points here
Your Nostri.me NIP-05 address (
you@nostri.me) includes relay hints
in its metadata. When other Nostr clients look up your identity, they discover
this relay automatically and know to publish events for you here. Adding it to
your client's relay list closes the loop — you will also receive those events
when your client connects.
Works with any Nostr client
This relay follows the standard Nostr protocol. Add it as a write relay, a read
relay, or both — it works with Damus, Amethyst, Primal, Snort, Coracle, and any
other NIP-compliant client. No special configuration or plugins required.
Setup
How to Add It
1
Open your preferred Nostr app(s) and navigate to its Relay settings.
This is usually found in Settings → Relays, or Network, depending on your app.
2
Add a new relay and paste the address:
wss://relay.nostri.me
3
Set it as a write relay at minimum — this tells your client to
publish your events here so others can find them. Setting it as both read and
write ensures you also receive events published to this relay by others.
4
Save your relay list. Your client will publish a kind 10002 relay list
event to your other relays so the Nostr network knows where to find you.
From this point, anyone sending you a message will automatically publish it to this relay.
5
Optional: Go to your Nostri.me account page
and tap Sync Relays from Nostr to pull your updated relay list
into your Nostri.me profile. This keeps your relay hints current.
Protocol
Supported Event Kinds
| Kind | NIP | Description | Read access |
|---|---|---|---|
0 |
NIP-01 | Profile metadata — display name, picture, about, website, NIP-05 address | Public |
3 |
NIP-02 | Contact list — the accounts you follow | Public |
4 |
NIP-04 | Encrypted direct messages — AES-256-CBC with ECDH shared secret | Auth required |
13 |
NIP-59 | Seal — encrypted inner event wrapping a NIP-17 direct message | Auth required |
1059 |
NIP-59 / NIP-17 | Gift Wrap — outer envelope for sealed private DMs; only the addressed recipient can read | Auth required |
10002 |
NIP-65 | Relay list metadata — tells other clients which relays to use for you | Public |
FAQ
Common Questions
Do I need a Nostri.me account to use this relay?
No. Any Nostr user can read from and subscribe to events on this relay. However,
publishing (writing) events requires NIP-42 authentication — your client must
sign a challenge with your Nostr private key. Most modern clients handle this automatically.
Is this relay free?
Yes. There is no charge to read from or write to this relay.
Will my existing messages be here?
Only events published to this relay directly will be stored here. Events published
to other relays before you added this one will not be backfilled automatically.
Going forward, your client will publish new events here alongside your other relays.
Can I use this as my only relay?
You can, but it is not recommended. Using multiple relays improves redundancy and
reach across the Nostr network. Think of this relay as a fast, reliable home base —
keep a few public relays alongside it so your posts are discoverable by users on
clients that do not yet know about you.
What happens to my messages if I remove this relay later?
Events already stored on this relay remain here but your client will stop publishing
new events to it. Messages sent to you after removal may not reach you if senders are
still using the old relay hint from your identity metadata — update your Nostri.me
relay list after removing it.